I‘d love to be writing about how my boys have bonded; how they adore each other; how CK dotes on BB; and how BB saves his best and biggest smiles for CK.
But right now, the best we have, is tolerance.
They tolerate each other.
We always knew it was going to be tough for CK when a new little person appeared on the scene. He was only two years and three months old when BB was born so still so very, very young. On top of that, with no family and few friends around, we’d always been three. No grandparents, godparents or aunts and uncles on hand to spoil him; we’d only ever had each other. There was no need for sharing.
And then we became four.
When CK first came to meet his new brother in the hospital, he was very sweet with him but far more excited about being able to go to the family room and help himself to drinks and biscuits. It wasn’t something we worried about. The hospital was a far more exciting place than a baby who didn’t do very much.
And then when we brought BB home, he slept for the majority of the day so there was very little interaction between the two of them. We saw a few flashes of jealously with CK laying claim to ‘my mama’ or ‘my papa’ if Paul and I spent too long holding BB but we also saw moments of complete and utter adoration with squeals of ‘I love baby BB’ and the tightest hugs ever.
Four months on and things are calm but I wouldn’t say that the boys are overwhelmed with brotherly love. Like I said, tolerance seems to be the best way to describe their relationship.
CK has told be that me doesn’t love BB. He likes him. But he doesn’t love him. He’s also suggested that BB might in fact prefer to live with his grandparents. BB told him that, apparently (yes, I really had to try very hard to stifle my laughter at that point).
BB, on the other hand, finds CK rather noisy and is also not entirely keen on being on the receiving end of his sloppy kisses. His eyes, although very young, scream ‘one day, I’m going to get you back for this’. I can see his fighting spirit already.
So these are our boys right now. They may not have the perfect relationship just yet. They may never have the perfect relationship. But they are both perfect in my eyes (and bringing a lot of laughter to our house).
*The top photograph was the best one I had of both of them for quite a while. BB doesn’t lie still unless he is sleeping and CK has a new ‘best smile’ which, as you can see, looks rather like a grimace. But every time I look at it, it really makes me laugh.